No matter why you may have a broken heart, you don’t deserve to go through that painful experience any longer. Often, it’s the one emotion that lingers on. Depending on your situation and your self-esteem, you might even feel like you deserve to feel that way, so you constantly replay the memories that have caused you to feel that way. The reality is that you don’t deserve to go through that.
In my opinion, having a broken heart might just be cause for all of the turmoil in the world. It might seem extreme to take it that far, but, the root of hatred, depression, abuse, etc. is hurt.
Hurt and a broken heart are one in the same. If this is the case, obviously broken hearts should not go on. However, from past experience, I know that someone reading these words, with a broken heart, might find it laughable because it’s easier said than done. At least I may have made you laugh. I can’t just tell you to not have a broken heart. You need specific actions to take to start getting yourself out of the slump. It might not be easy to let go of, but, it’s possible; at least, it’s possible to get better, and feel better about you. Here are seventeen plentiful ways to get over your broken heart, guaranteed:
1. Decide For Change: If you haven’t already decided you wanted a change from the feelings that you are going through with a broken heart, then now would be a good time to make the decision that you want to feel better and are ready to do the things you need to in order to feel better. If anything, do it for your well-being.
2. Accept It: Before you can change the situation you need to realize what it is, accept it, and move forward from there. You have a “broken heart”; you are hurt from something or someone. It’s causing you to lose sleep or sleep too much. It’s causing you have a lack of energy, to have a lack of motivation, to not want to be around people, to not eat properly, to be agitated, rude, or unpleasant to others, etc. Stop going through all of these motions, acting on your emotions, and instead, start to analyze them and step outside of that realm to observe your own self from the outside of your situation. When you take the time to evaluate what you are going through and how it is directly effecting your disposition and your actions, then, you are taking the time to accept it. You may have even hurt people along the way. You need to accept this as well. Don’t suppress it any longer. In doing this you will be thinking, using your mind to start the “realization” or “acceptance” process. Also, your body knows what's right for you. When you are doing what's wrong and self-inflicting yourself, it is as if you are in denial of what is right and rejecting your body's yearning for normality. When you finally acknowledge that you are doing something wrong, you accordingly will start to acknowledge what's right, endorsing change, and your body will start to appreciate this and may likely change for the better. This is good to note if you have been suffering from a physical illness.
3. Take Your Time: Realize that it’s going to take time. The time it takes for you, depends on you. It could take you a week. It could take you a couple of years. It doesn’t matter because when you’re consumed in a broken heart, you can’t see your feelings past the day. Nevertheless, aside from accepting the current moment, looking past the moment can put you past the pain. Once you have started the acceptance stage, you should have accepted that getting through this is going to take time. Though anything is possible, I would be misleading you if I said that you can get over such pain in a day. The key here is to not focus on how long it will take; you don’t know that. Why focus on something that you can’t control? It is a project. Progress is the key. What you do know is that the more work on the project and make progress, the closer you are to the finishing product. By the way, the further you get towards becoming happy again, the less important this time factor will become for you. Trying to improve yourself will become more of a life habit and you will have reached your biggest goal of becoming more in control of your happiness.
4. Get Rid of, or Stop Sulking Over Old Memories: Get rid of, or leave the pictures alone! No matter how many times you look at them, your results will be the same! You will keep reliving the past, and reliving the heart ache over and over again. Maybe, when you are healed, they won’t faze you…but right now, it’s only going to hurt your situation. You’re on a mission to be yourself again, to be happy again… don’t continue to defame yourself with some silly pictures.
5. Become, and Stay Active: Being active can refer to exercising or doing anything that includes motion of the body on a regular basis. It has been estimated that thirty to fifty percent of aging and illness is due to inactivity. Exercising is the most recommended activity because it encompasses routine and consistence. Also, exercising helps the circulation of oxygen throughout your body, increases strength and gives you a sense of well-being. When we exercise, endorphins, which are believed to relieve stress, are released in our brains. If all of that isn’t enough persuasion, being active will build your confidence and help you to loose unwanted weight. If you can afford it, hire a personal trainer to keep you motivated, help you feel special, and guide you to your perfect body. If you are willing to do research that’s needed, make the experience even more motivational by creating your own workout plan customized for you and your specific wants/needs. Print a copy of a workout routine that I personally created for myself, if it fits you. This can be found at www.thesweetsinglejourney.blogspot.com in the “health” section.
6. Find a Way to Improve Your Work: Whatever you do for a living, perfect it! Don’t become a workaholic, if you are not one already, because that’s not healthy. However, you have a lot of negative energy that we are trying to get rid of. While energy is never destructed, it is always transferred. We want to transfer it all into positive energy by doing all of these things listed, and exerting energy, that you currently have stored inside that’s giving you the blues. A great place to put some of that energy at is at work. Who knows, you might find yourself getting a raise or promoted from your good and surprising efforts.
7. Spend More Time With Family and Friends: It’s easy to take family and friends for granted. They seem to never go anywhere, so we don’t always put much energy into keeping them in our life, as we might a significant other for fear of them leaving us. Not that anyone has control over when they come and go from this earth, but you do have control over showing that you value their place here. For that reason, this is the perfect time to spend more time with them and show them that you do in-deed value them. You haven’t the destruction of a dysfunctional relationship. You have the time now. You don’t need any one individual in specific, but, you shouldn’t be alone
8. Pay Your Eating Habits Attention: You are what you eat. Really. This is a whole other project if you have been eating poorly all of your life. In any case, there are feasible things you can begin to do right away. First, if you have been neglecting food, start eating again, and, if you have been over eating or binging, reduce your food intake to what it should be. Here are some foods you may want to include in your diet:
Carbohydrates: Provide primary energy used by body
Fresh Fruits: Naturally provides necessary vitamins and provides energy
Fresh Vegetables: Provide vitamins and minerals
*Fish: It’s believed to help reduce depression because of its omega-3 fatty acids
Water: Plenty of water is essential for us, as our bodies are made of 70% water
9. Pay Your Sleeping Habits Attention: Experts say you should get 7-9 hours of sleep. You should make sure you get this amount. Of course, a healthy body is not going to get too much out of sync if this varies from time to time. However, having a broken heart is not having the healthiest body. If you are going to get out of this situation, you should consider yourself in a healing process, which means you should be doing all that you can to ignite the process and speed recovery. This would definitely include good sleeping habits. Sleep is good rest for a weary brain. It feels sooooo good.
10. Discover, or Focus on A Passion in Life: Take action with a passion that you have suppressing. If you have already engaged in your passions, don’t let a broken heart let you astray from it. It can be your best friend in such an emotional time and help you to blossom. If you don’t feel at the moment in time that you know what your passion is, that’s fine. You should search for it, but, in the meantime, pick any subject and study it. Find anything of interest to you and research it in your spare time. If you find something you are interested in, it won’t feel like work. Instead, it will be fun and stimulating. If you’re so “bugged out” right now that you can’t think of a topic to start with, try reading about moon phases, how to meditate, human vibrations, the human subconscious, anatomy, or watch the discovery channel. These should get your juices flowing.
11. Read: Note that I just stated to read. It doesn’t matter how or what you read, just read. Reading not only gives you an avenue to calm your mind of your constant thoughts, but it will stimulate your brain as well. From drifting off into another world to get away from this one, to finding new conversation topics to talk about, to simply becoming smarter and more educated (i.e. two different things). Whether you go to pick up a book at the bookstore, grab a magazine out of the local market, or browse the web, just read. Self-help books cover good topics on personal development. Great! Looks like you’ve got this step out of the way.
12. Listen to Your Favorite Music, and Dance: Just do it. While your mindset is stuck on sorrow and grief, you may feel like there is nothing that can take you out of it at the moment, when, in fact, there are obviously plenty of things, and this is one of the quickest. The happy feeling that you’ve gotten in the past from a favorite song or artist is only a few minutes away if you just give it a chance to play… Yes, play the happy song if that’s what it is….and, yes, play the sad song if that’s what it is. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with crying sometimes, especially in the beginning. You may still be getting to know your emotions. The important things is that you keep up your efforts to eventually be able to control them; don’t keep the sad song on repeat. Please, keep the majority happy. *Sing along to the happy songs.
13. Laugh: Laughter is the best medicine. If you have to look at funny videos online, talk to a funny friend, laugh at something about yourself, or laugh out loud for no reason (I’ve done it before and found that funny in itself). You will want to incorporate this in your healing treatment, and in life period. I’m sure you know how good laughing feels, but, learn some interesting facts about why and how it makes you feel that way at http://www.buzzle.com/articles/benefits-of-laughing.html.
14. Indulge in Spirituality: No matter if you have a religious belief or not, you have spiritual beliefs. Practice what keeps your faith in life going, whatever it may be. From praying, to meditating, to reciting positive affirmations, build on your devotion to life.
15. Pamper Yourself: You don’t deserve to keep beating yourself up or falling deeper into any depression. You deserve the complete opposite. So, that’s exactly what you should do; the opposite of hurting yourself. Remember, you having a broken heart is your choice, not anyone else’s. You have the power to control your emotions. This is one of the best ways to stimulate your positive emotions. Go to a spa, go to the bookstore, go shopping, get professionally groomed, etc. Do things that honestly make you feel good, no matter what anyone else may say. If you have to, plan before you go, specifically write things down that you want to get and that are within your budget….you might be inclined to impulsive spending, which is a no-no.
16.Forgive The Ones, or The Issue That Has Placed Hurt In Your Heart, and Forgive Yourself for Keeping It There: This may be the most important step of all. If this step is not taken, you will never fully get rid of the problem. A grudge is the worst thing you want to carry around in your heart. It starts and ends with forgiveness. This is more than a step, it’s a large platform. You must constantly forgive throughout the project. You want to do more than just say that you forgive yourself or another individual; you want to believe it and feel it. The way to truly do this is by persuading your mind that this is the case by constantly training your brain; repeat it in your mind that you forgive yourself and you forgive others. Another way is to think of all of the reasons why you should forgive. Depending on your situation and how many people are involved, you might be able to name several. Here are some:
It wasn’t meant to be; why try and go against nature? What’s meant to be is for a greater purpose, a more fulfilling outcome. Embrace it.
It will release the pain you are feeling.
You will feel lighter and have less negative energy in and around you.
It’s not as hard as you think; it’s possible.
It will give you peace in exchange.
You will grow/mature as an individual.
You will be able to love again.
17. Move On: Once you are feeling much better, get out and live your social life. Meet new people and flaunt your happiness. Spend time to yourself, family and friends first. This is needed to heal. Don’t pour salt on the womb. A broken heart can be shattered. Especially, when you are vulnerable, you don’t want to be taken advantage of. It’s hard to see in strangers which ones are really trustworthy of handling your feelings, when you’re blindly just looking to just relive a love you once had. Because you want to be able to reflect on your previous relationship for self-evaluation purposes, I don't recommend jumping from one relationship to the next.
Your goal is to fix your broken heart, and I wish you all the empowerment.
I can assure you that life goes on, and that you can choose the vehicle of your choice to experience the ride.
I love u pretty
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